Monday, July 11, 2011

"The Black Sheep"

While many Black kids encounter prejudice and racism at a young age, I was not one of those kids. After reading an incident on racism in schools, I was asked did I ever encounter racist acts such as being followed in a store or someone undermining my intelligence because of my race. Honestly, I haven't and why? Because I have the privilege of being light-skinned.

The privilege of being light-skinned? What does that mean? People don't discriminate against me because I'm of a lighter complexion.

I am superior within my race because I resemble White, which is perfection in society's eyes. While I wish this whole idea of dark skinned vs. light skinned discrimination wasn't true, I have to be honest with myself and it is true.

This idea is not a new concept. Light-skinned privilege dates back to slavery. Darker complexion slaves were forced to do strenuous, field work, while the lighter complexion slaves were more favorable, and subjected to house duties. Even today, society tells us that "Black is beautiful", with a photo of Beyonce. The underlying meaning is that, "Black is beautiful...but too much Black is ugly." When I turn on my television, light-skinned models are plastered all over commercials, television shows, and music videos. Even living in DC, I hear boys say, "A girl needs to pass the brown paper bag test if she wants to be with me." Blacks are already discriminated against enough, and society chooses to segregate Blacks even more by this idea of light-skinned privilege.

However, while it seems a privilege to some, I hated being light-skinned growing up. I stood out around my dark-skinned family. I was constantly being called Wonder Bread, white girl, and cracker by my cousins and siblings. When I went to school, I was the "white girl" out of my group of friends. I remember freshman year of high school, a white girl in my class got a slight tan, and everyone told her, "Wow, now you're more Black than Nichelle! You're darker than her! Nichelle you are White! “More Black? Me being White? It was definitely a weird experience for me, being called White by my Black AND White peers. For Christmas, a family member of mine gave me tanning oils so I could become darker. I am the Black sheep of my family and friends—no pun intended.

The question I constantly ask myself, "Is where do I fit in?" I'm not light enough to be White, but I'm not dark enough to be Black. The solution to this question is simple: If America looked past complexion and race, then society would be better. People should learn to not judge others by what they look like, but what they do and who they are. Even though Martin Luther King quotes are overused, one quote is true: "You should judge others not by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character." Although I know America is a long way from ending internal racism and racism overall, the first step is acceptance of others despite the way they look.

3 comments:

  1. Nichelle,
    This is a really good blog and you made some great references to being "light skinned" in the past and how that still continues in todays day and age.
    This was a well written piece.
    I love the image you used......a great supporting visual aid!
    I too have noticed how the media tries to portray the 'Black as beautiful" with pictures of Beyonce (who is know to have bleached her skin over the years). So is black really beautiful? Do we really believe that?
    When you look at really dark women, do you think they are beautiful?
    I often ask myself how much of the learned biases I have within me. It's something that as black women, we have to deal with every day.
    Thanks for writing such a great blog. Love it!

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  2. I've attempted to post this comment over and again and always "lose it"... to fire drills, computer mishaps, etc... So I'll say this. I really appreciate how you place yourself front-and-center of your interrogation of light-skin privilege. I recall, when i was a boy how it was common to demean a black kid by simply saying they were "African" or "Black". Sure...there have been cultural and momentary reversals of this, from "blacker the berry" to "I'm black and I'm proud"... Still, skin privilege and color-- from the big house to the field and our historical connection to such crude delineations that blacks, themselves, did not even create-- remains a black preoccupation. Awareness is key. Thanks for your candor and transparency.

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  3. I am start out by saying, I really lke this blog not only because its written nicely but also how much things you touch up on with a honest view. Honestly, if i had to chose between two females with the same complexion and body except different skin color. I would probably pick the lighter one. I don't blame this on myself. I didnt grow up being taught that black is beatiful, especially because out of the many African countries with dark skinned people, Ethiopia is populated with high percentage of light skinned people. However, I understand the immorality of discriminating someone based on the color of skin because I have been discrimnated. Being discriminated does not feel good at all. I believe that no one should feel like that because we all have our own intrinstic value.

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